Hello Friday! Hello blog readers too!
I hope that you have all had a good week and that the weather has been kind to you wherever you are. It has been odd here lately, last weekend we had snow, although it didn't last long and it was so cold that I didn't rush out to photograph it I am afraid. Then this week it has been warmer again. Very odd!
This week my five follow on from the chatter, so first up with the chatter, and then the five - because it will not make sense otherwise!
Last week I missed Five On Friday because we had had my father in laws funeral and although I had some other posts ready to go last week and for this week I didn't have the wherewithal for Five On Friday. I hope you understand - I am sure you do. I did still stop by and read your posts though. That is also why comments have been thin on the ground. I am sorry I have been absent, but I know that you understand. Sometimes you just need to go and hide don't you!
It has been a tough time as you know and I don't want to go on about it, because that will not help anyone, least of all me, but the funeral wasn't particularly pleasant - not that they ever are - and I am struggling to deal with the issues that arose, although some wonderful friends and family have really helped. I am grateful to be so blessed.
Anyway, the thing is that it has been a rubbish time - to end all of the other rubbish times that we have been dealing with.
I know that things will get better and, trust me, for me to know that is a big thing. So I am good with that. I know we will come out of the way that we - I! - feel right now. The thing is right now I am stuck with this oddness, and not knowing what to do with myself. For the first time in a long time, I am still problem rich, but also with lots of time on my hand. Usually I am problem rich and time poor so I don't have time to think. It isn't good having problems and yet time to think about them.
Speaking to two different people I realised two things. I don't know what I do "normally" because it has been so long since anything in my life was "normal" or "what I used to do". Speaking to another person I realised that it was probably 10 years ago that my life was "normal" so now I don't have any "normal" or any idea what that might be.
The world is suddenly my oyster, I have no one to take care, no responsibility other than for myself and Hubby, I can do anything, but I have no idea where to begin. I need busy, I need things to do. Yes, I totally get that I need to take some time to work things out, to grieve and all of those things, but I know myself and I also need things to do. What I really do not need is time to sit and think - over and over and over and, well, you get the point! It does nothing good for my mental health.
The thing is that I am stuck with where to start. What shall I do? I have a friend looking into one thing for me, we used to work together at a charity and although I don't want to go back to what I was doing, she is seeing if there are other opportunities. I have looked around for some - non aerobics! - exercise classes, but at £10.00 a week that is not a goer right now so I need to keep looking. Yes, I have my yarn, but I need people and I need to be out of the house.
All of this long waffle brings me back to my five things. This week I have five questions for you. Can you make some suggestions, classes I could look at, things I could do, things that Hubby and I could do together with our time and with each other more importantly. What ideas do you have? Tell me everything you can think of, don't hold back, you never know, it might be just what I am looking for - or what someone else is looking for.
Can you help me to figure out how to fill that gaping hole of time to stop my brain aching so hard!!!
I think that I had better round it up there and call this post to the end. My five things!
1. Suggestions for exercise - what do you do? I don't want to do aerobics classes - do they still exist in any case, I am not sure I could take lycra and legwarmers!
2. Suggestions for volunteering - again, what do you do and why do you like it? Inspire me!
3. Suggestions for other group activities to look for to join and why.
4. Suggestions for things that Hubby and I can do together at the weekend/evenings - just us as a couple.
5. Suggestions for things that Hubby and I could do with other people - so that we can both meet some new people and try new things with other people.
6. Suggestions for any other out of the house things that I could do.
If you have websites, details of specific organisations that would be wonderful.
Thank you all so much for your help!
Thank you all for listening, I am sorry about the glooms, I really am.
I do hope you are all well and happy, I will see you again soon.
Have a great weekend, love each other and be just a little kinder than you need to.
p.s. I am of course linking to Five On Friday, see the posts here or via the links in my sidebar.