Well I am back home. I was with Man for probably less than 15 minutes. You can read part one here which will make this post make more sense.
First of all I should say a couple of things that I omitted before. He is a relative - Man that is! Also, he does have one of those emergency pendant alarms and as far as I can tell he does wear it and know how to use it so I didn't think that anything fatal or medical had happened when I wrote what I did earlier. So I hope that you don't think that I was being flippant. I probably am a bit flippant about it, but if find it easier to cope that way. You have to laugh otherwise you cry right!
So, all is reasonably well....
Man is all fine and in one piece and was up - and amazingly dressed in warm clothes when I arrived so that was good.
Turns out that his cleaner came yesterday - randomly as she is supposed to be coming next week, but anyway - and rather than ask her to clean out the mouldy stinky horrible fridge - because it is like that and we are not allowed to clean it, we are only just allowed to throw out the manky food... - Man decided to ask her to clean out the cupboard under the sink. Random I know, but at least it was a job that needed doing.
Apparently the cleaner opened the doors and found a massive flood in the cupboard - cause you know that cupboards are so good at holding in floods! - and that the water was coming from a leaky tap. She took everything out of the cupboard, mopped up the water and put a bowl under the drip to catch any more water. All of which is good. Well, as in a good way to deal with a leak.
Man then decided that he would go out to get his prescriptions. This was at 2.30 in the afternoon he says. He didn't telephone us to tell us about the leak, he went out instead. Then, at 9.30 at night, when he got back from the pharmacy (who knows where he was for seven hours....) he decides to call us and tell us. Except he didn't. He telephoned Hubby's work number because - yes, hold on to your seats for this one - he assumed that the number written in big numbers on the back of Hubby's business card was our home number because it has the same dialling code as our home phone number....
Yes you might think that I was then speechless, but I wasn't because I am quite used to hearing this sort of thing. Because yes, you know, everyone has their home phone number on their business card, and no one has the same dialling code for their work number as their home number and of course everyones home phone has an answering machine message saying this is Mr X from Company Name etc etc.... Aggggggghhhhhhhhhhhhh!!!!!!!!!!!!!
We had a conversation. I explained that Hubby does not have his home phone number on his business card - and wrote that on the card! - and that Man should have called when he discovered the leak and that we - by which I mean Hubby - could have gone and fixed it yesterday evening.
Man then went on to tell me that he thought that Hubby would come and see him this evening - why? - and would fix it then - because you know Hubby always carries plumbing gear with him (not!) - and that he was going to ask a neighbour to look at it because - get this! - the neighbours wife goes out on a Tuesday and the neighbour would be home alone with nothing to do...
Oh, and the reason the tap is leaking. Yes, Man knows exactly why... Because Hubby's brother did some washing up and forced the tap on (it is a lever that moves at the slightest touch!) and that has broken something and cause the leak. He knows this because the tap is crooked...
So many issues!
I hope that you don't think that I am mean. So many times I could have written things, have written things and then deleted them, but this time I am going for it, so I hope you don't hate me. I have to write and say these things in a quite matter of fact way as otherwise I get really messed up about it - I have been quite ill over it all in the past - so it isn't that I don't care, it is actually because I care a lot, and this is the way that I deal with him and care for myself at the same time.
It is a tough situation, Hubby's brother lives a long way away, and does not believe that there is anything wrong with Man because he sees him so rarely and because if you don't look too deeply or ask any questions Man's remarks/conversation/arguments can sound quite plausible. However, if you really stop and think and listen they aren't. Such as the cupboard was holding in a massive flood and no water had been dripping out. He also has an answer for everything. Plus neither Hubby or his brother will ever question anyone about anything, least of all Man.
That is where we are. I have called Hubby and told him to get home from work today quick smart so that he can go and fix the leak. There wasn't anything I could do other than confirm that there is a very small drip, and empty the container the cleaner put in place to sort out the drip as I didn't have any tools with me - because I am not a plumber either! All will be fine I am sure. I expect that Man has been shoving stuff in the cupboard and knocked something, or there is just a drip - as does sometimes happen!
We move on to the next challenge another day. The good news is that it is now warmer, drier and the sun has come out, so after I have had my lunch I am going to go for my walk in the sun! See. Every cloud has a silver lining!