Thursday, 31 December 2015

Aims

It is New Years Eve, and tomorrow will be New Years Day which is, as we are all more than well aware the time for New Years Resolutions.  I can "resolve" to do all kinds of things.  Like many though, my resolve soon dissolves.  Rapidly into thin air.  As I am sure that many of you find as well.

Some people have words for the year.  Although I don't exactly do that, for 2015 my motto to myself, along with "let it go" was "onwards, upwards, positive, stronger".  It is easy to say these words and things, but harder to actually live them and do them.  I do feel though as though I am more positive and stronger than I was 12 months ago and I will keep going onwards and upwards.  At times I have to remind myself almost by the second to "let it go", but "let it go" I do and although others might not see such a difference on the outside, I most certainly feel one on the inside.

There is also the option for personal challenges, walk a certain distance, complete a run, read so many books - change your mantel each month! - along with many other possibilities.

So for 2016 do I make resolutions, invent a list of challenges or have a word - or phrase - for the year?

No is the short answer, the more correct answer is no, but...

I am keeping "let it go" and "onwards, upwards, positive, stronger" because I think they are good and have helped and as they say, if it ain't broke don't fix it.  So no new words, but staying with the ones that I already have.

After two years I am also letting my jar of thanksgiving go.  I look for the thankful things and often record them in my Five On Friday posts.  I don't need to do that twice.  So I will find another use for my big jar.  Sweeties on my desk perhaps....

Resolutions are not for me.  Somehow they seem to be quite a negative thing, people make them and just as quickly break them so what is the point, and they are usually about not doing something.  Instead, I am going to try and have some aims of things to achieve.  Rather than stopping something, I am going to be starting something.

The list/thoughts/process is still a work in process, but here is where I am at so far.

Keep the words - as I said - and get rid of the jar.

2016 will be the year of the needle.  I will sew this year along with my various needlepoint, cross stitch and tapestry projects that I have waiting to be done.  I will also learn to put in a zip.  I will make some things with all of the fabric that I have stashed and saved.

That doesn't mean that I will not be crocheting because I surely will!  I am going to finish my hexi blanket for one thing.

I am going to write up patterns for the things that I crocheted last year and there are other thoughts and ideas in the pipeline regarding that, which are still in formulation.

I will formulate the plans for the thing that I just alluded to and see where it takes me.

My fitbit - I call it my little guy - has confirmed that I do not take anything like enough steps in a day.  So I will walk a lot more than I have been doing.

I will also continue to work on confirming to myself that I am not a bad person and that despite what anyone else might think or say or do I am good and nice and am not "common" or bad or not good enough and if they don't like it, well, then that is their problem isn't it!  I mentioned another recent breakthrough with this in regard to Christmas cards, not only do I not care any more what they say about our cards, I can honestly say that I don't even care why they might have said it.  Earlier this week I had the misfortune to have lunch with the card person and I really didn't care what they thought or said about anything!

No doubt many things will happen to knock me down off my peg a time or two in the next year, and that is quite normal, but I have learned to keep going and to move on and not be stopped by it.  I don't talk about it here, but things aren't always the easiest for me.  Especially on the inside, but, by working hard to try and be what I want to be on the outside - which is a lot of work let me tell you! - I am gradually becoming it on the inside.  Not so much fake it till you make it, but be what you want to be until you are what you want to be.

I will also write more, not necessarily here and in what way I don't yet know, but I will write and get better at it.  I will also continue to read more.  Especially as I added to my book count at Christmas!

I will - I really will!! - sort out ALL of my photos, blog the ones that I am going to blog, file and archive and back up everything that I want to keep and delete everything else.  This will also mean that I won't have a load of posts sitting in drafts - although I expect that most bloggers have a few of those!

We also have more garden plans afoot and other house plans too.  No doubt there will be travel and trips and more things happening at work too.  Plans are already being made for one trip that will be very special to us.

So, I am not resolving to do anything, but I hope that I have a direction to point myself in with a few things to complete during the coming year.  I will follow the compass on the path that I have set and see where the route takes me.  I am aiming to keep up the achievements of the last year and hoping they will continue to take me to good places.  What more can you ask.

Amy

45 comments:

  1. Here here Amy. I too don't really do resolutions as such. Last year I wanted to knit more and that was my challenge, easy and simple and accomplished. I now love knitting. This year ahead of course I want to loose weight but I'm not going to diet I just want to live more 'clean' but this is not a resolution but a lifestyle change. I enjoy readin about your endeavours and wish you all the best for 2016 my dear. I just posted a review of 2015 which was such fun. I love blogging and it's such a great record of ones life. Think back to all that you have achieved in 2015 Amy, it's quite an incredible amount xxxx

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  2. Happy New Year Amy - hope you achieve all that makes you happy.

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  3. Good for you Amy, hope 2016 is a great one xxxx

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  4. Well said Amy and I also know the battle I have on the inside. You sound a lot like me when you put it that way. I don't make resolutions, though I did make some challenges for this year, which basically didnt happen. My card arrived yesterday, so thank you very much. I've been a bit slack on the email, so sorry about that. Happy New Year, take care and I'll catch soon.

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  5. Whatever you end up doing, resolutions, aims etc I just hope 2016 is a happy one for you Amy. I look forward to reading about your year in your blog.

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  6. Hello! I stopped by! :) nice, ehem...goals! Some of them sound similar to mine. Have a happy and blessed new year, from a random blogger! :D

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  7. Wow you are going to be BUSY! I've used Let it go A LOT! Mostly through utter laziness but I've been so less stressed because of it!

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  8. I'm looking forward to seeing all your posts next year and see how the year unfolds. Best wishes and much happiness for the year ahead. x

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  9. I'm wishing you both a very very happy New Year Amy. CJ xx

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  10. Aims are better than resolutions we can all have aims and aspirations over any length of time. I wish you well with everything over the next year, Amy. Happy New Year to you and yours:)

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  11. I'm taking much the same approach as you. I'm continuing with my list of things I want to see and do, am keeping on with the same word ('open' as in be receptive to all possibilities) and am continuing with my reading schedule. I have a couple of 'big' projects to be done during the year but they are still in the planning stage.

    I'm glad I'm not the only one who sees the traditional new year resolutions as a negative sort of thing. I wish you every success with your plans for the year and I'll read your blog with interest to see how you get on. I'm especially keen to see what you do on the sewing front as that's where my real interest is - I still can't crochet!! - and I have lots of ideas for my own needlework projects.

    I sorted my photos last year, so am feeling for you on that one, but can assure you that you'll get there and the effort will be worth it. Just be disciplined on sorting and backing up all new photos straight away so that you don't add to your backlog.

    Wishing you a happy and healthy 2016, and looking forward to reading about all of your adventures.

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  12. I've really enjoyed reading your blog this year, Amy, and have no doubt that I will enjoy it just as much next year. Happy New Year to you and your hubby! :o)

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  13. Wishing you a very happy New Year, Amy!

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  14. Whatever you decide to do Amy I wish you and your family all the very best for 2016. >) xx

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  15. Good luck. :) Wishing you the happiness you deserve in 2016. And thanks for being a great friend. x

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  16. Wishing you a very Happy New Year Amy....I'm with you on the aims and aspirations and not resolutions...By the way I'm loving my 12 Days Of Christmas....xx

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  17. Happy New Year, I wish you peace and joy and a positive frame of mind to continue to grow and achieve.

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  18. May 2016 be a good and happy year for you and your husband Amy. My hopes are for a world filled with more peace and less suffering.

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  19. Sending good wishes for you in 2016,Amy♥️
    I don't always get here to comment, but I do think of you often...
    We go way back,eh?
    Talk soon..
    Cheers!
    Linda :o)

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  20. I think that you approach is very balanced and wise. I don't do resolutions either, though I do hope to make a few changes and one of them is walking more.

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  21. Why ever should a thought that you are a bad person enter your head? That is dreadful, for you seem to me a very nice person indeed ("good" makes you sound a paragon, and that would be boring!) So beat out those negative thoughts with a ruddy great shovel! Instead, treat yourself kindly.
    I don't do Resolutions either because at my great age (well, let me say I was born just before the end of WW2) I know they will be immediately broken, so there's little point, but it is good to make assessments at the end of the year, and from now on it is my intention (not that I will always remember) to buy at least two items when I go to the supermarket and pop them into the container for the Food Bank. We are a rich country and it is a tragedy that we have to have food banks, but we do. So donations I will make.
    I also hope to continue, as I have done for a while now, to do a good deed a day. There was a woman talking about this on Breakfast TV this week, but I've been doing this for a while - it needn't be a big thing, but just a smile at someone in a shop, or politeness to the checkout person ... a few months ago I didn't spend sufficient in a supermarket to use my £10-off voucher, so I passed it to the next person behind me, and she was delighted. Also, I hope to be more tolerant of my husband's deafness. He often gets the wrong end of the stick in conversations, so I must learn patience and not yell, "No, you've got it all wrong again!" I was deaf for a month when I had an ear infection and it's a truly awful affliction, so I must just remind myself what it felt like.
    As I say, these aren't Resolutions but things I'm already doing which I hope to do in the future but with more consistence.
    Happy New Year, Amy, and to all your readers,
    Margaret P

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  22. I think aims, challenges, whatever they're called, are much better than resolutions. I much prefer to set fun challenges. Wishing you all the very best for 2016.

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  23. All really good thoughts Amy. I hear you on the Christmas cards. We get one that is just comical- it is so
    full of itself. THE sad thing is that we know for a fact the family is struggling in many ways...and I love the sender.
    So many things happened in 2015 that I could not and did not plan for. Many good things. I'll take 2016 as it comes. Life is very very good

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  24. You are so right to not let what others say or think of you define you. You know who you are. I always look forward to your blog, it shows what a caring person you are. Happy New Year to you and your husband.

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  25. Hi Amy! It's so therapeutic to list the things we have before us, our work in a very positive way. You remind me that I must stop procrastinating and take my sewing machine in for repairs.

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  26. Happy New year old bean , hoping 2016 will be a cracker xxxxxxx

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  27. Greetings Amy. I have only known you through your lovely blog but to me you are warm, kind, thoughtful and much more. When I turned fifty I decided not to waste my with people I don't enjoy. I was so shy and timid. Not in my sixties I say what I feel. It's very odd but that's me. I'm looking forward to reading your wonderful blog this upcoming year. And, it's been a joy getting to know you. I wish you the very best for the New Year. Hugs, Pat

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  28. I always enjoy my visits to your blog ...

    Sending Happy New Year Wishes, the countdown to 2016 is on ...

    All the best Jan

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  29. I wish you a fruitful, satisfying, contentment-filled happy new year Amy. Sam x

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  30. Lots of sensible and positive plans here Amy. I wish you a happy, fulfilled, creative, healthy and peaceful year ahead and look forward to visiting your blog in 2016. Happy New Year!
    Helen xox

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  31. Sounds like a great plan for a great year - I wish you all the success!!!!

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  32. I love all the things you are aiming for! Such positive ideas and wonderful goals :) I stopped by today to say a little "thank you". You always leave the loveliest comments whenever you drop by my blog and it SO appreciated. Wishing you all the best as the New Year begins. Cheers to a productive, enlightening, HAPPY year ahead :)

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  33. I am not sure why you have ever thought you are not a good person, you are the very best, not just good but the best! I think that if you ever need a reminder of that all you have to do is contact me and I will set you straight. I always feel I could be better, stronger emotionally, nicer, more positive and a better friend, therapist, mom, etc. But in reality we are doing the best we can at any given moment. Don't you forget for even one moment how wonderful you are.
    Happy New Years!!!!

    Meredith

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  34. Happy New Year Amy and good luck with all that you have planned - you have got some good things planned with your sewing and craftwork.
    Best wishes for good health, happiness and prosperity for 2016
    hugs
    Carolyn

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  35. I don't make New Year's resolutions, nor do I have a word for the year. I just keep striving to foot one foot in front of the other and be the "best Melanie" that I can be every day. If I have a bad day or I'm crabby, so be it. That's life. I just roll with it. There's one thing that I really need to work on though, and that is patience with my mother. I find that as she's growing older, she's becoming overly-sensitive and overly-talkative. We've had quite a few misunderstandings this past year and it always leaves me feeling angry and hurt. I can't change who she is, so all I can do is work on myself and how I react to her. Anyway...here's to positivity in our lives for 2016! Happy New Year, Amy.

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  36. to have plans is good, to follow them through is amazing, to let go of the impossible ones is wise, to be the person you are is the best :) here is to a good New Year and to a blessed and peaceful 2016!

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  37. Thank you for the Marvelous way you communicate with us . . .
    Happy Happy All the Days Imaginable!
    love & love,
    -g-

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  38. Hi super person, it's Jo. I love a resolution but it is always a doing one and mostly around craft or being more like Barbara Good. Here's a funny - my friend has made the resolution to tell more people to F off!! Which although slightly in your face metaphorically she just wants to spend time with people she likes and the people who like her which I find kinda heartwarming. Love to ya Amy.
    Not a resolution at all but I would love to meet again in 2106 maybe your way... Jo xx

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  39. Happy New Year Amy, may your compass lead you safely through the year x

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  40. Happy New Year, Amy! I was in the middle of sending you some New Year greetings when the comment box disappeared so I apologise if you received a half-written message by mistake! Thank you for your kind words of support during 2015 and may you feel supported yourself as you work towards overcoming your self-proclaimed challenges in 2016. I am sure everyone here is willing to back you up because that is what friends are for. May 2016 be great. x

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  41. I am not making resolutions this year, I think I am going to try and stress less and accept that things happen, not always for a reason, it is just part of life.

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  42. Sounds perfectly sensible - and good luck with the onwards and upwards x

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  43. If it's right for you it's RIGHT for YOU! I don't get all caught up in what someone else thinks or tells me I should do. Heck fire Woman, I barely know myself most days.
    Happy New Year, be gentle with yourself, you're the only you you've got.

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  44. we have some similar intentions for 2016. I want to be focusing on the NOW not will be or might be. That is something I'm always working on. Also I'm focusing on health and eating habits.

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  45. wishing you a lovely year ahead Amy, this sounds like a very positive way to live x

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