Sunday, 21 December 2014

Advent Four

Today we light the fourth advent candle.  I had a post written for today about how it is the fourth Sunday of Advent and also the Midwinter Solstice.  I wrote about how it reminded me that as the days lengthen again and bring more light into our days that at this time I celebrate the birth of Christ who bought light into my life.


As you can see though I am not sharing that post - although my feelings and sentiments about it still stand.  Instead I wanted to talk about something else that has been on my mind and it seemed right to share it here with you.

Much like the rest of the world, I plod on daily through life and deal with the ups and downs that we all have, good times and bad, in sickness and in health - sounds like marriage vows doesn't it!  We all do this every day, month and year of our lives however long or short they may be. 

My life isn't all sunshine and roses, but no more or less so than anyone else's.  I am very lucky though, and I am well aware of it.  I have a wonderful husband, a family who love me and enough food and drink, a warm and safe home, friends and many other good things.

However, I am aware that this little blog may sometimes give disparate impressions of my life.  Sometimes I mention difficult times that really bring me down, and other times it appears as if life is gaily skimming along and as though I don't have a single care in the world other than to do happy jolly things as though I was some sort of latter day Pollyanna.  Of course it isn't really this extreme in either direction.  I try really hard to focus on the good things, especially here, and it is something that I really (have to) work at.  Sometimes the grimmer side of life comes through though, but I am not really at liberty to share that with you, because as I have said before it isn't all my story to share.  My focus on the good isn't to say that my life is perfect or wonderful or better than anyone else.  It is that I need to think about the good bits to get through the rougher times.

Anyway, what is the real point of this ramble I hear you thinking.  It is that I want you all to know that just because I am trying to focus on the happier side, it doesn't mean that I am not aware that Christmas can be a really crummy time for many people.  Bereavement, marital problems, ill health, loneliness, stress and a hundred other things can mean that Christmas can be a really difficult time for many people.


Please know that I am well aware of this and I am thinking of everyone who is having a difficult time and sending love and best wishes that your Christmas will be as good as it possibly can be, whatever your situation. I hope too that your Christmasses yet to come will be better than others have ever been.  That is my Christmas wish for you all.

So, this isn't a pity party, nor is it Pollyanna, it is just letting you know that I know it is rough out there and that I am thinking of you and I really do send you my love and best wishes.

Amy

32 comments:

  1. Well said, Amy, and my sentiments exactly. I make no apologies for my blog being my happiness place (most of the time), and I find that very therapeutic, and part of looking after myself. I get much joy from your posts, and I hope some people find their day a tiny bit brighter for visiting my blog. Thinking of you this Christmas, and wishing you every blessing and happiness, for you and your family.
    PS What a gorgeous Nativity, and great little village scene. xxoo

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  2. I don't post the 'bad stuff' on my blogs either...we all know they go on,we all experience them..posting about the good stuff gives us all a lift,hope, and knowledge that 'stuff' passes and gets better.
    Jane x

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  3. Amy, please let your blog be a happy place, please be Polyanna !!
    We're all well aware that in "real life" things will not only be those happy moments, nor for you, nor for us, but it is uplifting to read a positive blog like yours ! So do continue focussing on the happy stuff - you make a lot of people feel good !

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  4. Amy, you're showing your tender heart and that's a good thing. I too know there are ones who have difficult times. My Daddy passed away on December 13, 1997, and he loved Christmas so much. My mother joined him in Heaven last year. But I'm not sad because they would want us to remember the good times. Merry Christmas.
    Be a sweetie,
    Shelia ;)

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  5. If I'd wanted to read about doom and gloom, I wouldn't be following your blog. We all know there are bad things out there in the world, but the more we focus on the positive and the light, the more of that we bring to ourselves and others. Keep doing what you're doing, I like it very much xx

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  6. Great post Amy! I too, try to focus on the good things on my blog. There are tough times too, and for that I'm so thankful for what that baby born at Christmas did for us. It would be hard to make it through those hard time without knowing there is more to life.
    Thanks for your positive blog!

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  7. Your posts are always honest Amy in both your happy go lucky and more reflective times. We all have our ups and downs - four disquietening things this year have come to us in news via family and friends' Christmas letters so we count our blessings, as do you especially at this time of year. Blessings at Winter Solstice and Happy Christmas to you and yours:)

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  8. Hi Amy I have just seen your lovely felt decorations-they are so cute! What a beautiful nativity scene above. I am very like you-It is both a blessing and a curse to feel things so deeply but sharing feelings always helps! I do hope you will have a peaceful Christmas with family and every happiness to you in the coming year
    Alison xx

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  9. I often think the same thing when I blog, Amy - that I'm giving the impression that my life is nothing but a series of wonderful events. The reality is, of course, that I have stuff to deal with on a daily basis that is far from wonderful. But, like you say, it's someone else's stuff, so I don't feel it would be right to blog about it. Which is too bad really, because I think if I could blog about it once in awhile it would be helpful.

    I hope you have a very Merry Christmas with your family, and that 2015 is a year of very good things for all of you!

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  10. Such a thoughtful post Amy, blogging does tend to focus on the happy stuff....because we want it to be an uplifting read and because it's good for us to practice gratitude. It's good to read your words of thoughtfulness too.
    I hope you do have lots of happy times this Christmas
    .Jacquie x
    Jacquie x

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  11. A lovely post. I've just seen an article somewhere a few minutes ago that told of a lady called Betty who lost her husband 12 years ago as he been alone for Christmas ever since. This year, she has booked every table in a local pub, 50 seats or so, at a cost of £1000 and it will be a meal for 50 people who would otherwise have spent the day alone - how brilliant is that?!

    Merry Christmas :)

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  12. Well said Amy I think most of us share the same sentiments xxxx

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  13. I think it's the same for us all. Our blogs are just snippets of our lives, we couldn't possible share 100% of our lives 100% of the time. I share your sentiments, Christmas can be a sad or difficult time for so many people, wouldn't it be lovely if it could be just a little bit easier for those finding it hard.

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  14. I'm with you, Amy. I don't post a lot of things that happen in my life on my blog because ... well, just because I don't. I try to keep it upbeat but that doesn't mean that I'm upbeat all the time - quite the opposite this year truth be told. Let's hope that 2015 is better for all of us!

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  15. Completely understand what you mean Amy. Lovely post and very well said. xo

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  16. Well said and written Amy. So true - it's great to have a place to put the happy, smiley stuff, but it's good to remember that it's not the whole picture. I hope you've had a good day. x

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  17. What a lovely post Amy. You are right, it is hard for some people, the contrast between the media portrayal of a wonderful happy Christmas and the harsh reality can be brutal. CJ xx

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  18. Oh bless you Amy, you are such a sweet sensitive person, recognising that life is complicated for many people xxx

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  19. True! Blogs are a tiny window into what people do, say, think, and feel. There are probably a lot of people who could draw some cheer from the beautiful images and honest stories, but maybe they don't know the blog world exists or don't "get" how to navigate it.
    Even the big bloggers have less than a thousand comments and that's not very many readers when we consider how many humans are walking the planet.
    I hope you are enjoying your last days before Christmas, Amy!

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  20. Bless you, Amy. And don't feel bad sharing whatever it is you want to share - and for keeping other things private. It is your blog and your decision. It is a time to celebrate the coming of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ and even if one has problems (and who doesn't?), it still is a special time. I'm glad you are celebrating and writing about Advent.
    Blessings, Beth

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  21. It is easy to get caught up in all the busy arrangements for Christmas, but you are right to remember others less fortunate. There are lots of lonely people, many who do not even have a home in which to live, and others having to cope with illness and tragedies.

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  22. Love and best wishes to you too Amy!

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  23. Your blog should be your happy place, I think. In my opinion, intelligent people won't make the mistake of thinking your life is perfect because you don't share the warts. They will understand and enjoy your blog for the good things you share. That's my opinion, anyway. That and a nickel might get me a ride on the subway, right? :)

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  24. Merry Christmas to you and your family. I am like you - I try to share the good things in my life, no-one wants to really know about the financial worries I have had, trials and tribulations of my tweens and other things in my life, but yes I too am aware that life is hard for some, and pretty photos don't always make it easier.

    Take care and I'll see you in 2015.

    Julie

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  25. Lovely sentiments indeed. I've gotten to a point where I no longer have attachments to the holidays. All my Thanksgivings and Christmases and Easters were spent as big family gatherings at my Mammaw's house with all the food and presents and it was wonderful. When my kids were younger, we had many friends to spend the holidays with, doing all the things that I did as a child. But with time, everything changes, and I'm okay with that. In the end, it really is just another day of the year. People go into debt to buy Christmas gifts, or even to get married. People have expectations for certain days, and if they don't turn out as planned, if they don't get that emotional high, then they are depressed. It doesn't make sense to me to set yourself up for disappointment and failure. Consumerism is a dreadful thing. Simple is better. Enjoy the day for what it is. Collect moments, not things. That is truly what every single day should be about. Have a happy holiday, whatever it may bring. Best wishes, Tammy

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  26. Thankyou Amy. Whilst we're facing our first Christmas without my mum we're also aware of how lucky we are compared to many.
    Have a lovely Christmas.
    Sarah x

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  27. That's a very sensitive post. Have a wonderful, wonderful, Christmas Amy. Love the nativity set!

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  28. Very well articulated. Hope you have a wonderful Christmas.

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  29. Thank you Amy. Your beautiful soul shines through your words xx

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  30. Such a beautiful and sensitive post, I totally agree x
    Your decorations are beautiful, wishing you and your loved ones a wonderful and joyous Christmas~time!
    love Jooles x x x

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