Tuesday, 21 October 2014

Grace

Today I was at the nursing home visiting for most of the day.  By the time I left I was so tired and as I started the drive home this song came on the radio.  It just spoke to me.  The words said so much about what I had learned today about Grace.  Don't you just find it amazing how the right song can appear on the radio just when you need it.

(I tried so hard to put the video in, but couldn't get it to work, I will have another go another day when I am less tired, but please do click the link and listen to the words)

It is a rubbish time right now, but a good time too, learning about myself, good things and not so good.  I am incredibly impatient at times, and yet I am learning patience.  I am also learning things about others too.

Mostly what I learned is the way that others can act with such grace, despite what they are going through.  Gosh, if only we could be more graceful in our dealings with others and in our lives.

The good news is that in a sense I have been more graceful since my visit last week, because I haven't been attacked by any more anti rain weapons (love that term Red Setter!) and I am wearing flat shoes too - no heels!! 

Still managed to spill my lunch down my front today though, drive the wrong way into the petrol station at the motorway services and nearly walk off with someone else's credit card too - can you imagine how awful that would have been!!  Oh, and horror of horrors, set the personal attack alarm off on the phone of the Lady I was visiting.  It shrieked and wailed like nothing I have ever heard and who knew that phones could have personal attack alarms.  Oh the shame!!!  At least I didn't set her alarm off for if she needed a nurse!

They had a raffle today, I didn't win a prize, but at least it meant that I didn't win the basket of dodgy looking toiletries that was left as the last item to be claimed either!  No one seemed to want it.  I think that it went to some poor man in the end, I cannot imagine what he would do with the contents of the basket.


Small blessings!

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Thank you for your comments and understanding at this time, your words and thoughts are so appreciated, more than you might know. 

I am sorry that these posts are not perhaps the most cheering things you have ever read, or perhaps they seem irreverent, but Lady is someone very close to me (as is Third Person).  I have to find the funny side and perhaps the black humour in all of this as if I don't I will be a sobbing mess in the corner no good to anyone.   In the last six years we have had pretty much a continual stream of ill health and worse in our friends and family and as I will perhaps someday explain more about, if I don't look at it in this way I cannot look at all.  Please don't be offended though.

Thank you again for your kindness.  Best wishes to you and yours.

Amy

48 comments:

  1. Not irreverent at all, Amy. It sounds like a "if you didn't laugh about it, you'd cry" sort of day and I'm sure you brightened up Lady's day by being there with her. xx

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  2. Oh dear Amy! I love this song and hubby lovesvNeil Diamond I will send him later:)
    Thanks by the link and hope you have a good day tomorrow:))

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  3. Hi Amy...
    You do get into some predicaments, don't you?
    You are lovely to take the time...don't reproach yourself...lovely!
    Enjoy the rest of your week...
    And don't set off anymore alarms! hahaha!
    Cheers!
    Linda :o)

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  4. I hope tomorrow is a better day for you. Sending hugs
    Clare xx

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  5. Oh Amy, I'm sorry things are so tough right now. The lyrics to the song are lovely. Grace is something I'm in need of I think. I much admire it in others, but I find it hard to achieve. I desperately need to learn patience too, but that one may be out of my reach. All of your little incidences today sound exactly like the kind of thing I manage to do all the time. I've developed a very good sense of humour. Your tale of the personal attack alarm reminds me of being on a bus once when a girl's alarm went off. She didn't realise what it was. The bus driver ended up stopping the bus and walking all round it, checking all the windows and doors. It took about five minutes before they realised what it was. Sending you very best wishes and a cyber hug. CJ xx

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  6. Grace is very important and I think that if you are actively trying to achieve it, you have already fought at least half the battle.

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  7. I commend you for spending an entire day at the nursing home. It can be very draining, but I'll bet it was most appreciated by your loved one. Don't run yourself down, you're doing what many others would not want to bother with. It does seem that you are seeing the funny side of things through your frustrations though, which is good. You need to keep your spirits up! Sending you a big hug and hoping your days turn a little brighter soon. Take care my friend, Wendy xox

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  8. I visit my mum three times a week in her care home - for half an hour at a time. I can't imagine how it would be to stay all day so huge kudos to you for doing that. I agree - you have to laugh at some of the things that go on otherwise you'd cry. As I keep being reminded by other people, don't forget to take care of yourself as well! Hugs, Amy. :o)

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  9. I was in and out of nursing homes for the better part of a decade with all the elders. It's tough . I used to cry in the parking lot sometimes. We laugh when we have no more tears. Very true, it gets us through the hard times. Take care and keep smiling. Chris

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  10. Oh Amy, life can be pretty difficult at times and it's good that we can laugh at some things to take away the heaviness. I admire you for helping out your friend right now. I'm sure you are a blessing. Take care dear.
    Hugs, Pam

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  11. Thanks for the link I loved it! I hadn't heard of that song before! Grace is what gets us through the lows and the highs of our life. I always ask for God's grace before dealing with difficult times and he always comes through! My thoughts and prayers are with you while you deal with this difficult time. They say laughter is the best medicine so don't beat yourself up about the absent-mindedness, as it makes you laugh and lessens the stress.

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  12. Lots of special hugs are sent your way Amy. Care home visiting of a loved one is often a bittersweet experience no matter how good the home and staff. It often takes quite a bit of moral fibre and you have certain proved your credentials on that score.

    My day took a nosedive today but you've just given me a really good laugh at your comedy of errors which sound like a fab premise for a sitcom character! I love your upbeat joy at missing out on the raffle prize too. On the very odd occasions I win something it is always a bottle of booze and I don't even like alcohol! Glad you didn't have an anti rain weapon today otherwise you'd either have been battered senseless or taken off like Mary Poppins. Thanks for the mention too.

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  13. I agree with some of the comments above - taking care of somebody is good, but just don't forget to take care of yourself, Amy... Nobody benefits if you have a breakdown ! On the contrary !!
    I also have learnt it the hard way : to be good for others, first be good to yourself.
    (And ps - I didn't know either phones can have personal alarms !!! )

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  14. Life can be very stressful sometimes but when you still have some humor and smile it sure makes it a bit easier. Hope you have a great rest of the week and weekend.

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  15. I am so sorry you are going through such a difficult time, it is so emotionally draining when friends and family are suffering ill health. We can only do our best, but remember to look after ourselves as well otherwise we are no good to anyone. Take some time to pamper yourself. x

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  16. Oh, Amy, you are so brave and Grace is a perfect word for the situation. Grace and humor will carry you through. I have been in your shoes and I know all those bittersweet feelings and the squaring of shoulders and unexpected kindnesses that can reduce you to tears. Sending you love and courage and blessings. xo Karen

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  17. Hey Amy,
    I'm so sorry to hear about the tough times that you are having. Thank the lord for a sense of humour. Where would we be without it? I think that half the battle to achieving a state of being is one's awareness of it. You are quite clearly a very kind and giving person. Patient too I would imagine. Probably more than you realise. Sending you love, and a gentle hug.
    Leanne xx

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  18. When things are tough it can be helpful to see the humorous side of things, also a smile helps makes the world a better place.

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  19. I have to admire you Amy in all that you're doing and yes you are going to have difficult days, but most of all I admire your sense of humour. How many of us have dreaded winning the last and least liked raffle prize, knowing full well that it was probably donated by yet another dissatisfied winner who took it home and kept it for donating again. I'm chuckling as I speak. Your sense of humour will carry you on your not so good days. Chin up you're doing a wonderful thing. Patricia x

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  20. Hospital and nursing home visiting can be so tiring, it really does wear you out, as does the worry about the person you're visiting. I do hope you're remembering to take care of you too, you'll be no good to anyone if you don't. I enjoyed listening to Neil Diamond whilst reading your post, he's a favourite of my dad and I grew up with his music playing in the house.

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  21. Sending you a hug, its not easy caring for someone you love. As others have said grace and humour will see you through.

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  22. Oh Amy, I am feeling for you. I'm sure a lot of us have had to deal with similar situations, especially as we get older. Coping comes is such different ways and although we are not there with you, we are thinking about you. Love and huggles from Oz.

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  23. It sounds to me you are dealing with this stressful situation with a healthy dosis of humour and perspective, Amy. Being graceful in more difficult times is something I'm working on too. At times it's hard, but oh so rewarding when you 'grasp' that feeling of calm and acceptance inside.

    Sending lots of good vibes your way xxx

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  24. sorry you are having a rough time right now, take care of yourself xxx

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  25. Amy, thanks for this post. I'm having a rubbish week too ( car accident yesterday, feeling unwell, no childcare help) and your post has reminded me to accept whatever comes with grace and to keep going, soldier on as they say, be grateful for all blessings, big or small, and to try and look at things with a bit.more humour. Thank you! Hope you have a lovely, restful weekend! x

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  26. Not an easy time for you Amy. Sending hugs xx

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  27. I thought I had left a comment, but I think I pressed a key on my keyboad and it was gone. I'll try again. I know it's been difficult for you lately and I'm so sorry about that, but I love that you can still see the humor in most things, it definitely helps get through the difficult moments.

    Hugs,
    Sandra
    xoxoxo

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  28. Amy, sending you kind thoughts and sharing your feelings. What are blogger friends for???

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  29. Sounds like you are shouldering the burden with grace and honour Amy, you can't do more. X

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  30. Sorry you're not having the best of times at the moment but good to hear you can still see some positives. I won a similar toiletries set in the WI raffle and immediately passed it on to a charity shop. It probably ended up in another raffle!

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  31. Sometimes life is just not that cheerful. I am learning a lot about myself lately, not necessarily things I like about myself. I could use a little more grace, forgiveness and patience in my life. Hang in there my friend,
    Meredith

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  32. Life is not always rosy and plain sailing. You have to make the best of what you get and try to get through it as gracefully as possible. If it makes you feel any better, I set off the alarm in Marks and Spencer by opening the wrong door - looking for my son who was hiding behind some rails and watching the security men descend on me!

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  33. I know how it used to be visiting my step-dad in a nursing home and now we have a friend in one too miles away from here but I do try to ring her at the weekends - she has her ups and downs. It is very hard to see those you care for struggling with life. I hope things feel better today - keep up that humour as it does get you through the more difficult times. Take care:)

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  34. You are doing great Amy hang on in there this time will pass. :) xxx

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  35. Sending good thoughts, hugs and prayers. Grace gives perspective, hope the rest of your week goes better.
    XO

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  36. Sending a hug at a tricky time. Laughter is a great tonic. Thinking of you. x

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  37. I helped my granny settle in at her retirement home, it was heart breaking to see her loose her independence but at the same time it was a relief to know she was well looked after. She wasn't there long but I did spend a few full days with her. It was tiring, emotionally more than physically. I am glad you are able to hold onto your sense of humour. Wishing you strength and courage Amy. Cx

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  38. The video link works for me and I have that very same album. I love his recent stuff - he has a new album out now - but wasn't a fan back in the Cracklin' Rosy' days - funny how we change and sometimes we have to change to suit the times but we get by. Chin up, old girl, you're doing a great job. xxx

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  39. Well I could eat the biscuits for sure, but what a day you had you poor thing. You are right, it's the way we behave that shows what we are really made of and I'm sure you're doing a great job.

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  40. Oh, yes, Amy. Grace is amazing, and I so admire and identify with your desire to have more of it! I'm so sorry that you find yourself in a difficult season. It's in those seasons that Grace shines brighter than ever, I think, but oh, those seasons hurt so. Sending you hugs and prayers and love from Colorado, Dear Friend! <3

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  41. Life can be very tiring and upsetting, I know. Please remember that you also need to take good care of yourself...take a hot bath, read, do some gentle stretching, go to bed early. {{hugs}}

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  42. I am sorry that things are so tough right now - it sounds like you're going through a particularly draining and challenging time at the moment. You sound like you have a lot of grace to me, you always find the humour in a situation and you put others first so much. Hugs to you. x

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  43. Oh Amy, just back from holiday and catching up here a bit. Sorry to read of all you're going through but just know that you are loved & cared for so much by so many lovely Bloggy friends and my prayer is that you will feel surrounded by grace & hope & truth & love, just like the song says. It's one of my fave ND songs too ��
    It's good to find humour in things too, and your post conveys that. Keep your chin up, walk tall & keep your tiara on straight... Love & hugs xx

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  44. Sorry to hear things are a little stressful for you at the moment, you are doing a great job just make sure you take time to care for yourself too. Xx

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  45. Amy, I think you are amazing. Just so sorry that life is difficult at the moment. I have no magic wand or words of wisdom but look at all these people here on your blog that you have touched in someway. We are here all be it in a www way. Sending positive vibes and virtual hugs your way. Xxxx

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  46. Amy, sorry to hear that things are not to smooth right now. In these times its easy to keep soldiering on trying to get to the end of all the "curve balls" only to be hesitant incase another one flies in, but keep going, things will smooth out. Thinking of you. xx

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